The Sex Question....

This again becomes a very personal question. I can only tell you how I feel about it.

First, Shibari is an Erotic Art Form. It is about seducing your lover. With that established we can move on.

For myself, it will depend on what my relationship is like with the person I am putting into ropes. If it is a photographic, or performance art piece then Shibari is about Art. I try to keep my photoshoots as professional as possible so there are no drugs or alchohol, and sexual advances are simply not tolerated. My goal is to creat images that are beautiful enough that even people who have a hard time looking at a bondage piece will stop and think "Hmm, that is kind of interesting ".

If you are lovers, then Shibari can certainly become about fantasies and hot sex!

Then there is the in between. Many people like to gather and "play" with the ropes as a way to relax and show off technique. Or maybe there is a Halloween party and a pretty young thing likes the way a rope dress looks and will ask me to tie one on her. Here sex usually doesn't have a place, but lots of fun is had anyway. Other people find their time in the ropes theraputic, it is their time for them to relax and be in the care of someone that they trust. Largely, sex won't be a part of this. All expectations and boundries are clearly laid out before the playing starts. Trust in your partner is a huge aspect of Shibari. This is a physical art form, and much like any Martial Art injuries can happen if you aren't in careful.

It is a very special thing when someone puts themselves in your care, therefore their SAFTEY, and their TRUST are of utmost importance!